You know what I'm really sick of.....
These watered down ideas of what relationship goals are and look like. My generation has treated love, relationships and marriage like a game of Russian roulette for far to long.
LADIES!!! It is okay to be single. You won't die! We've mastered the art of portraying men personas, while taking on the role; yet fall so easily to these mediocre men that don't fall in line with God's word. Don't be a victim to such an idea that it is better to have him than be alone!
We cry because he messes up; yet again. Then forgive him 2 days later when he comes up with some philosophy that he needs you more than life itself. Sis, he needs Jesus in his life.
Just because you both have the same interests does not mean your soulmates! Grow up! We fall for the ideas and fancy words and charism that leads you to say things like:
"Well he's trying...he's been really good lately..."
(He's not your child or your dog! Or maybe he is.... ️) *sips tea*
Potential is tricky.
We see him and say
"Well at least he has a car, he'll find the job soon. He has the potential."
"He's been going to church. His mom's a christian, there's potential."
Sis!!!!! Everybody has potential. Don't compromise your "list of goals" for the potential that he is going to change.
He must already come with the characters of a godly man. Period.
Please don't get me wrong. I was a victim to fancy words and charism.
(9 months later Similac....)
S/O to my kid though! *laughing*
For far to long, I've seen to many good women loose simply because they thought he was gonna change. Nobody can do that, but Jesus... so let him goooooo.... to Jesus! Sometimes we gotta take that L and bounce back.... in God's timing. Stop rushing the process!
Sorry for the rant.... kinda.
Don't lose hope! Stay within the will of God.
"God cares about what you care about!"
"And don't be wishing you were someplace else or with someone else. Where you are right now is God's place for you. Live and obey and love and believe right there. God, not your marital status, defines your life." 1 Corinthians 7:17 [MSG]